Frequently Asked Questions

How long does divorce mediation takeHow long does divorce mediation take?
Since all divorcing couples are different, there is never a fixed time frame for your divorce. The "right" number of mediation meetings, their duration and frequency are determined by the actual time each couple needs to work out mutually satisfactory arrangements. Generally, the average divorce mediation takes from three to six sessions.

Do I need a lawyer during mediation?
No, an attorney is not required. In mediation, some clients are represented by an attorney from start to finish. Some clients hire an attorney to solely review documents. We advise all clients in mediation to consult with legal counsel at some point during the process, especially if they have questions regarding legal issues. Upon reaching an agreement, one of the parties will take the draft separation agreement to an attorney to be developed into a legal document to be filed with the Court.

How much does divorce mediation cost?
Most couples share the cost of their mediation. Our hourly fee applies to all time spent in meetings, phone calls, caucusing, and in drafting agreements. With no upfront retainer costs, mediation is only a fraction of the cost to retain separate attorneys. In litigated divorces, it is common for each party to spend from $8,000 to $30,000 each.

What type of issues that can be addressed in mediation?

  • Child visitation and contact schedules, primary residence and co-parenting plans
  • Division of marital property, pensions, assets and debts
  • Child support and spousal support
  • Future financial issues; medical and life insurance, taxes and educational costs

How does divorce mediation work?
In Divorce Mediation, a specially trained mediator will help you and your spouse work together to reach an agreement. Mediators help couples separate their ending spousal role from their continuing parental role. Couples learn to evaluate their present financial condition and provide for their future financial needs.


With the mediator’s help, agreements can be reached to handle both immediate and long-range concerns. The mediator will focus on the relevant issues and help identify possible options. Divorcing spouses will actively participate in the negotiations, leading to reasonable solutions and a mutually satisfactory agreement that considers the needs of all family members. A neutral figure, the mediator helps to balance the power between two people. The mediator is not an advocate for either party and does not make any decisions. Instead, the mediator helps the couple explore all options and their consequences.

Mediation is also for couples who do not have children or whose children are grown.

Can the mediator give us legal advice?
The mediator is a neutral, impartial third-party facilitator of the discussions. The mediator cannot give legal, tax or financial advice.

Is everything in mediation confidential?
Most communications in the mediation process are privileged and confidential. There may be times when the mediator will call for a "caucus." In a caucus, the mediator meets with a divorcing couple, separately, to clarify issues. The caucus is the only time during the mediation process that information can be confidential. Even in caucus, however, information that is substantive to the divorce must be shared with the other spouse, if the mediation is to continue.


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Norwich, CT 06360

(860) 887-9580